Posts Tagged ‘Friendship’

Memorial to Helen Issangya

Thursday, March 25, 2010
posted by jsmith
Mama Helen with her daughter Rogathe and grandaughter Shirley

Mama Helen with one of  her daughters Rogathe and one of her grandchildren, Shirley.

The first time I went to Africa was in 1993; that seems like two lifetimes ago.  Since 1993 I have been back to Africa well over twenty times (thank you MSCF!).  Most of these times I have stayed in the home of my dear friends Eliudi and Helen Issangya, in Sakila, Tanzania. 

The first time I rode from the Kilimanjaro Airport to the village of Sakila I felt as if I had travelled to some foreign planet, or possibly the moon, that’s how strange it was to me (and also to my good friend, Mike Wood).  Now when I go to Sakila it is truly my “second home.”  Other than my own house I feel most at home when I am in Sakila.  Much of that credit goes to Mama Helen Issangya who saw to it that I was welcomed and cared for over the last seventeen and a half years.  This dear woman, wife of my great friend Eliudi Issangya, and mother to six children, has now passed on to her eternal home, a greater home.  A land that will never grow old.

This blog is a small attempt to show her the honor and respect that is due to her for taking care of me and the many other people who showed up at her home in need of care.  Mama Helen was always there for me. She made sure that I had the food that I needed, the clean water that was necessary, and she showed great compassion towards me as I went through everything from malaria (1996) to a heart attack that caused me to be hospitalized and have surgery in Amsterdam  in 2007.  She had suffered so much with her illness that she knew how to care for those who were in pain or distress. 

Helen treated me with such respect. I hope that I sincerely returned that respect back to her.  Thank you Mama Helen for giving yourself to all of us for all these years.  I, and many others, African and Americans, will never forget all that you did for us, and  the “Mama” that you were to us.  Be at rest, Be at Peace, Mama Helen. 

 Helen Issangya went to her eternal home on February 2, 2010.

James R. Smith

Tea with Tia

Wednesday, June 3, 2009
posted by ssmith
In the summer of 2008, I began “moving forward” with my dream plans to visit my firend, Tia Ao, in Mokokchung, Nagaland. My travel dream began in May, 2001 while Tia and her husband, Chuba Ao, visited with our family for the third time in our New York home. Chuba then wrote in precise detail instructions for obtaining an Indian visa and recommended air travel from London to New Delhi to Assam to Mokokchung, Nagaland which is located among the Northeast states of India. I kept those sheets of handwritten instructions in a known place for seven years hoping, hoping & praying that one day. one day I would sit with them in their home two continents away as they had sat in ours. I would see with my own eyes the children’s residential school they had founded together and their other projects aimed at improving the quality of life for the residents of their beloved region.
Tia & I were close instantly when we first met in the mid-nineties. We shared spirituality, vision, and our love of tea. I was thrilled to introduce new blends to her from my collection of Celestial Seasonings teas perched above my kitchen stove. Drinking tea together afforded her time to remember and talk of life in Mokokchung . I listened to her heart as we drank tea together and wondered if I would ever see the places she described to me.
 
Time on this earth ran out for Chuba and he passed on to his eternal reward in July, 2005. The sad news reached us via email from their contact in Coventry, England, Mike Holt, whom I’d never met.  How my heart ached for Tia that summer afternoon and my attempt in consoling her through a telephone call made my resolve to go to her ever more constant.
An ancient Hebrew proverb states that, “Like cold water to a weary soul is good news from a distant land.”  This idea became my motive when telling friends about my desire to visit Nagaland. Refreshment was my purpose and water was my theme.
Fast-forward to October 2, 2008 and motive met opportunity as I boarded BA Flight 0116 at JFK Airport with final  destination of Mokokchung four days later. It was an arduous journey of over eleven thousand miles by auto, aircraft, and Land Rover. And I made it! I was now in Tia’s home, in her kitchen, at her table drinking tea from her tea pot and cup brimming with some of the Celestial Seasonings samplings I had brought for her.
Before I settled into her guest room that first night, exhausted physically but elated in my soul, Tia’s sweet voice called my name, opened the door and brought in a case of bottled water for my stay. “That is so much!” I exclaimed. She replied, “Sarah , you have come all the way from America to see me the least I can do is give you cold water!”
Tia and the Case of Water

Tia and the Case of Water